Category: Let's talk
It is fasinating that people manage to hold up relationships right around the world dispite the distance. But the thing that I wanted to know, is who here has actually tried to have a long distance dating thing and actually made it work for longer than a year.
i have to say, the distance thing completely destroyed my relationship of 2 and a half years. i went away to costa rica in the summer (i live in the UK). it was only for 3 months. when i went, everything between me and my boyfriend was perfect. then things changed so quickly, within a matter of weeks. i just fell out of love with him. then we broke up when i came back to the UK. he still loves me, but i have nothing left in my heart. i still love him as a person, but i'm not in love with him any more. i think the distance brought out all the problems we were having. he was always ill and never wanted to see me. he always had flu or a cold, or asthma, or throat or chest infections. always something. when i was away, i didn't have to worry whether he was gonna let me down yet again or not. i had my freddom. the weight was lifted off my sholders and that was that. i think they can work, but i think that if you do have problems in a relationship, the distance does bring them to the surface.
I would never have a long distance relationship unless precedures between me and my partner were agreed which layed the foundations for our relationship to become short distance. I would also want there to be as much chance of it progressing as there would be if it wasn't long distance, and I would have to be able to see my partner regularly. I think what is stupid though is that people will go out with people they've never met. They obviously do this because they're not good enough for anyone in their local area, and they're desperate.
yeah, why do people do that?! it just strikes me as being a complete waste of time and really sad! i mean i have to admit that when i was 14 i had a boyfriend that i havent met to this day, but i would never do it now. i dont know how you could call someone your boyfriend (or girlfriend) if you hardly know them
and what is your deffinition of hardly knowing someone? when has enough time passed, when do you have enough information to say you know someone? people can be married for 20 years and suddenly their partner will do something that you could never have imagined them doing. , I Have dated guys in my local area who I don't feel I have known half as much about as I do about a number of my on line friends. I don't think you can meassure how well you know or don't know someone purely based on the number of times you physically see them. It is an individual thing and every situation is different. As for ww saying that people who who aren't dating people in their local area beeing desperate, that couldn't be further from the truth. Dating for the hell of it is desperate, not beeing able to function without having a bf/gf is desperate. Depending on others for your supposed happyness. Beeing attracted to waht you know of someone, regardless of geographic location, is not desperate. I think that jumping into something with out full and proper consideration is not always wise, but who am I to judge what feels right to another? I know what works for me and what doesn't, and that's all I am concerned with.
totally agreed Krystel